“Checking Your Phone” – Hurting family relationships

“Checking Your Phone” – Hurting family relationships

Over half of children think that their parents check their phone too often, with a quarter of parents agreeing they want to look at their devices less. Yet it’s difficult to pry ourselves away from technology, so social media is in large part making us less social.  Andy Crouch reflects on these issues and will help us think through utilizing tech in a way that contributes to relationships.




Transitioning in Student Ministry

This is the time of year that many transitions and graduations are happening around the country.  It can be especially hard for many parents and kids as this happens.  We sent this to all of our parents in the student ministry hoping that this can help out in someway.  I also hope that this article can help you or someone else out as well.

Transition in Student Ministry

Students accepting or rejecting their walk with God is happening younger and younger.  We can focus all of our attention on students who graduate from high school to college, but the truth is, we need to start even younger.

We must work hard to make the transition as easy as possible for all students.  The best thing we can do is to keep everything consistent. Second Students works hard to keep students in a small group separated by gender and grade with a consistent small group leader. You know it takes a village to raise a child, and we agree. We do all we can to make sure we have the best volunteers when it comes to working with your students. We believe in our adult leaders and give them as many resources as possible for them to best serve the students.

We plan many events and activities throughout the year to build that student/volunteer relationship. These are key for getting to know the students, earn their trust, and begin investing in their lives.
We also believe in providing opportunities for your student to serve both on Sunday mornings and on Wednesday nights. We have seen that though transitions can be hard, when a student serves, this creates ownership. This too, translates into consistency.

We want transition of your student to be as easy as possible for your family. We want to come along side your family and make these next few years the best yet.  Our goal is to add to the already strong foundation your family has set and see your student grow in their walk with the Lord.

Please let us know if there is any way we can help. We look forward to watching your family be impacted by God through this transition.


Michael Head

Be You..

Be You..

At times in life we can feel like we really aren’t good enough. I know that in ministry we can fall into that trap as well. We hear a great sermon and want to go and do that sermon (that is not a good way to show what God is doing in your life) or we want to go and be that person somehow. I have fallen into that trap before and it is horrible to be there. It is hard to continue to be someone else when God made me the best me.

Ministry is about you being you! God made you to do ministry the way He made you. In ministry, the trap comes as we try to look, talk, act, dress, speak, sound, study, read, listen, yell, live, move, sing, design, like the people who are “doing it.”

Who said you’re not getting it done In your area that you are serving now? You may be reading this and in the back of your mind you are thinking, “well only if I had this or that”.
Why are you “not getting it done”? Maybe because you are looking in the backyard of another church or ministry and you are jealous because they have cooler lights, larger staff, amazing worship leaders, great communicators, cool carpet (ok no one is saying they have cool carpet).
Let’s look that up in the Bible…WAIT, IT’S NOT! No where does it say, the “cooler” buildings, lights, screens, stage designs, sermon titles, get people to come to your church or events.
It does say it is about relationships, that is it! People knowing that you truly care about them, and want to see them grow in their walk with God.
BE you. BE who God made YOU. Don’t be someone else. You will be more successful if you are you! The people that you try to be like, are not like anyone else. They’re not scared to just be them, so do ministry the way God designed you to be, not how He designed everyone else.

Mothers Day…

Mothers Day…

Mothers day is an incredible day for so many people…  I personally am very excited about today because of the mom that I get to see in action every single day!  The truth is, is that there are many who will never be married, never have kids, and will always struggle on this day.

I am saddened for those people and I know quite a few… I ran across this, and I hope if you know someone or maybe you fall into that spectrum this will help.

Here is a section from a Mother’s Day sermon by John Piper where he addressed some various issues of pain that can be associated with this day:

There are millions of single women, and many will stay single.

There is a grace from God for that—a very special grace and for some even a calling.

There are women who are single mothers and the marriage element in the calling I just described is painfully missing.

Jesus Christ has a grace for that.

There are women who are married and cannot, or, with their husbands, choose not, to have children.

Jesus has a grace for that.



cropped-bestillpiccopy.jpgFor so long my favorite verse has been Psalm 46.10…. I have it on my wall in my office I stare at it all day long. I preach it, tell it, counsel with it, etc. I have just found that at times I need to REALLY put it into practice.

Can I really “Be still and know He is God.” It is hard at times to just do the first part “BE” can I even do that just “BE.”

I work hard to focus on this and let it really be lived out in my life.  Life can at times be so incredible, but happening at a speed that is very fast.  Those are the moments that we forget to just BE…. I challenge you to BE this week… What is that? How do we “BE”?  I would take time and ask God, and see what He says about you being “Be” You have to figure that out for your self.

Dad’s we HAVE GOT TO GET IT TOGETHER (to-get-her)!!!

Dad’s we HAVE GOT TO GET IT TOGETHER (to-get-her)!!!

When Emersyn and Ayler say Da-Da it is so amazing!

Emy and Dad

I love it when Emersyn my soon to be 4-year-old little girl- says Daddy, Daddio, or even DaDA. I love it! There is just something about hearing her say those words that will never get old.. (It did at times, when she was 1 and that is all she could say, example – Dada meant I’m hungry, tired, board, or more Mickey)

What being her dada does to me is makes me strive to be the best DADA I can for her…  Reminds me that I need to sacrifice things for her to spend time with her.   I need to get on the floor and play with her Ponies, her Anna and Elsa, twirl her in her princess dress, watch Sophia with her, go to daddy daughter events at her school and church, tell her she looks beautiful when she gets dressed on her own and looks like an unmatched Christmas tree with all the accessories.  I need to get off my phone when I am home with her, so she can see my eyes looking at her instead of the top of my head.  I need to take her on walks, dates, and just us to go to the park or pool.

Am I a perfect DaDa? No, but I am giving it my all.  I want her to know that I will always be here for her, I will always listen to her, I will always protect her, and I will always love her!

I want to encourage dads to please stop pouring into things that wont last and start pouring into your little girls.  They have always needed us and always will need us.  Right now in our world we as Christian Dads need to step it up. We must be spending time with them. Look at your time, where is it going? Is it work? Then take time off to spend with her, don’t look back on your time as a dada and wish you would have left work a little earlier, or didn’t answer that call, or turned the game off just to spend time with her.  Before you know it they will be out of the house and searching for a man who is similar to you, being the only example that she has seen..  What are you showing her?

Lets strive to be the best Dad we can!
When I talk to girls who are already grown, this is what they are thankful for…
     – They are not thankful for the house you got them
     – They are not thankful for how much money you made
     – They are not thankful for all the long hours you put in at work
     – Instead it was
               – Thanks for loving me so so much
               – Thanks for letting me interrupt you
               – Thanks for getting on the floor with me and playing
Here are some tips to continue to be an amazing father… 
1. Touch: Just like their moms, girls need to be hugged. All the time, Daily if possible..
     – Girls don’t understand when puberty hits that dads back off when they used to wrestle and hug a ton..
     – When dad is still hugging the younger kids and not the older girl.
                              – The girl feels like he doesn’t love her any more..
     – Lets continue to hug.
2. One on One time – Breakfast, lunch, dinner!
                              – Put it on your calendar and do it, don’t book something else over it..
3. Sweet cards, flowers, short prayers
4. The most important is conversation and asking questions (Girls feel abandoned by their dad when they are not verbal with them.)