When Emersyn and Ayler say Da-Da it is so amazing!
I love it when Emersyn my soon to be 4-year-old little girl- says Daddy, Daddio, or even DaDA. I love it! There is just something about hearing her say those words that will never get old.. (It did at times, when she was 1 and that is all she could say, example – Dada meant I’m hungry, tired, board, or more Mickey)
What being her dada does to me is makes me strive to be the best DADA I can for her… Reminds me that I need to sacrifice things for her to spend time with her. I need to get on the floor and play with her Ponies, her Anna and Elsa, twirl her in her princess dress, watch Sophia with her, go to daddy daughter events at her school and church, tell her she looks beautiful when she gets dressed on her own and looks like an unmatched Christmas tree with all the accessories. I need to get off my phone when I am home with her, so she can see my eyes looking at her instead of the top of my head. I need to take her on walks, dates, and just us to go to the park or pool.
Am I a perfect DaDa? No, but I am giving it my all. I want her to know that I will always be here for her, I will always listen to her, I will always protect her, and I will always love her!
I want to encourage dads to please stop pouring into things that wont last and start pouring into your little girls. They have always needed us and always will need us. Right now in our world we as Christian Dads need to step it up. We must be spending time with them. Look at your time, where is it going? Is it work? Then take time off to spend with her, don’t look back on your time as a dada and wish you would have left work a little earlier, or didn’t answer that call, or turned the game off just to spend time with her. Before you know it they will be out of the house and searching for a man who is similar to you, being the only example that she has seen.. What are you showing her?
Lets strive to be the best Dad we can!
When I talk to girls who are already grown, this is what they are thankful for…
– They are not thankful for the house you got them
– They are not thankful for how much money you made
– They are not thankful for all the long hours you put in at work
– Instead it was
– Thanks for loving me so so much
– Thanks for letting me interrupt you
– Thanks for getting on the floor with me and playing
Here are some tips to continue to be an amazing father…
1. Touch: Just like their moms, girls need to be hugged. All the time, Daily if possible..
– Girls don’t understand when puberty hits that dads back off when they used to wrestle and hug a ton..
– When dad is still hugging the younger kids and not the older girl.
– The girl feels like he doesn’t love her any more..
– Lets continue to hug.
2. One on One time – Breakfast, lunch, dinner!
– Put it on your calendar and do it, don’t book something else over it..
3. Sweet cards, flowers, short prayers
4. The most important is conversation and asking questions (Girls feel abandoned by their dad when they are not verbal with them.)