Disclaimer – I’m not a therapist or a doctor, I’ve simply been doing my work and have been on a journey of healing.
It’s extremely difficult to “get over it” when anxiety and depression seem to be taking over your mind and body, especially when root cause is trauma.
When someone breaks an arm they go get an X-ray and see where it is broke and work to fix it. The same is true of mental health, the problem though is people are not comfortable going to “get the X-ray and find where it is broken” and then it never heals and gets worse.
It’s like me telling someone with a broken leg to just “Get Up” and go. When they physically can’t stand or walk. Once they start to rest and rehab the leg and work on it and possibly take medicine to help it heal then they start to see healing begin.
Our brain is no different, just a bit more complex, and have less studies on this since physical health is more outward. We are starting to see so many new studies on the brain and learning about it. Once people realize they may have some mental health / mind health / brain health / head health (whatever you want to call it) they go to a Dr (psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor, therapist) then they can pin point the “break”. Then can rest (meditation/prayer/sleep) and rehab (many types of great therapy out there) the brain, possibly take medicine and start to heal the brain and start to heal their mental health.
These brain scans can help to see the truth of a sick mind. Again same as an X-ray that shows a broken body part just one is inside and hidden while the other is outside andobvious.
These scans show the absence of activity in the frontal lobes of an abused person.
These are scans from a brain of a depressed person. The name is perfect since you can see the suppression of brain activity.
The challenge of recovery is to reestablish ownership of your body and your mind — of your self. This means feeling free to know what you know and to feel what you feel without becoming overwhelmed, enraged, ashamed, or collapsed. For most people this involves (1) finding a way to become calm and focused, (2) learning to maintain that calm in response to images, thoughts, sounds, or physical sensations that remind you of the past, (3) finding a way to be fully alive in the present and engaged with the people around you, (4) not having to keep secrets from yourself, including secrets about the ways that you have managed to survive. “The body keeps the score” – Dr. Bessel A Van Der Kolk
Truly we must remember that not everyone is able to just “get up and go”. Be extremely cautious in telling people what you don’t know, or you “think” is the right thing. If someone has an infectious disease we can’t tell them to just take a bath and you will be better. We would send them to a Dr since they will know best how to handle it. The absolute best response is love and acceptance to anyone who may be sick or hurt, just like someone who is physically recovering.