Before walking into the hospital room I knew I needed to pray. I needed to pray that I’d have ears to listen, and a spirit of acceptance and love. We were walking into yet another hospital room of a sweet child who tried to end their life.
We walked in and all I could say is, I understand and this makes sense, just know your understood and that you are not alone. These are the words that our world needs to hear everyday, not just when the bottom falls out. When we let people know that they are not alone in their struggles, this can start a beautiful reaction of change and healing.
1 Thessalonians 5.11 Whether we’re awake with the living or asleep with the dead, we’re alive with him! So speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind. I know you’re already doing this; just keep on doing it.
Encouragement is rare in a culture of negativity & constant judgement. It’s rare because judgement is easier, it is easier to speak negative thoughts and to judge others.
Knowing that this child was in need of encouragement and dealing with massive amounts of shame and guilt. The only option is acceptance, grace and love.
We had such a great visit and learned so much from our time. Best thing we heard was “I want to get better” these are huge words of hope and future healing! We also saw God bring beauty from my ashes to again help someone else.
As we left I stopped by the nurses station and asked how often do you see adolescent suicide attempts at your hospital. The response shook me up, said that everyday they have many beds occupied of attempted suicides, and it’s constantly rising.
We must let others know we are listening and available without judgement. This is an issue that has to be spoken up for. I understand it’s not comfortable, neither are funerals of our loved ones. So we need to speak up now, before it’s to late. When people break an arm they get help, when people need heart medicine they go get it. This is no different, the only difference is the cultural stigma of mental health.
We have the chance NOW to speak up for those who don’t have a voice. We have a chance to love others who have never experienced love. We have a chance go show grace and introduce them to Christ. We have a chance to save lives of the downcast and hopeless.
It’s time to be attentive to the ones we love and who God has placed us around. We must never assume everyone is doing good just because their instagram looks good and they “seem to be ok”. We can be the ones to ask the hard questions and slow down and take time for others.
1. Meditation and breathing.
2. Calling a trusted friend.
3. Serving others meaningfully.
4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
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