Being Fathered on Father’s Day

“In times where I feel shame I have a Father who sent His own son to die for my sin and shame.”

I have the incredible opportunity of raising three superheroes and I feel beyond blessed to be their dad.

This Father’s Day I feel so blessed to be around my sweet family. This year is very different, I love my family completely different than I ever did before. I truly love them in a whole new beautiful way, in a way that if it wasn’t for God placing my life on hold earlier this year, and forcing me to slow down – some things would have never changed.

The video is the moment when I walked in the door from Onsite for 45 days. This is one of the better memories I have as a father this year. Because in December 2018 – I didn’t know the father I was, as my childhood trauma started to rise up out of nowhere and tried to take over my life. I didn’t want to leave my family for that long, yet I had no choice, my Heavenly Father was in charge. This was one of the hardest decisions of my life.

Yet, while I was away I learned the gift I was giving my family. The gift that says I’m not above getting help, that I don’t have it all together and that vulnerability isn’t weakness. The gift of a father who isn’t allowing Complex PTSD to stop our life and ruin our family. A father who is willing to work hard on his mental wellness to be the best I can be for myself and in turn my family.

Trust me I know father’s Day can be very hard. It can bring up so many emotions in so many ways. Maybe you’ve lost a father, lost a child or had traumatic childhoods. Days like today can bring up many emotions such as anger, sadness, and hopelessness for many.

Guard yourself and be cautious today while scrolling on social media. As it can trigger more emotions as we see relationships with fathers that seem so great.

Against what society says don’t be afraid to ask for help, reach out to a trusted friend and let them know how your doing. Weakness is not saying your upset, true strength is when you can ask for help.

I love what @Milesadcox says “It’s not what’s wrong with you it’s what’s right with you.” Don’t try to just push through another “holiday” alone, trust me it adds up and will eventually catch up to you. You need to talk or learn to cope in a healthy way. Solitude, drinking, acting perfect, and silence isn’t the answer. If possible connect with the right people who love you for you and are always there.

Love this from Pastorwifelife

What I do know and can remember is that I have a Heavenly Father who is ready to meet me where I am and that will hold me through every step I take.

So, what does that look like?

In times of not feeling good enough I have a Father who tells me I am wonderfully made in His image.

In times of feeling alone I have a Father who is always near and with me wherever I go.

In times where I feel shame I have a Father who sent His own son to die for my sin and shame.

No matter what lies you are feeling today that is keeping you from the Father’s love, our God is ready to wipe those lies away with TRUTH if you would only listen.

I’m no longer a slave to fear, I am a child of God – Bethel Music

2 thoughts on “Being Fathered on Father’s Day

  1. Happy Fathers Day! I am so happy for you! Thanks for sharing your story and encouraging others to seek help.

    Gal 4:6-7
    And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God.

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